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Thinking about stress, the first things that come to mind are usually ones that are external. It can be work, caring responsibilities, a feeling of uncertainty, conflict with others, overwhelming emotions... But stress doesn't only happen around us, it also takes place inside us, within our nervous system, in ourselves and in the ways we find to keep ourselves safe and to cope. If the stress we experienced has been a short-lived one, then our nervous system usually can find i

Moral injury can seem mysterious as it's not a term that would usually make its way into everyday conversations. And still, many of us recognise the experience the moment we hear it described. Moral injury refers to the deep emotional and psychological impact that can happen when we are involved in, witness, or are unable to prevent something that goes against our core values. The things that we believe are right, fair, or humane. So it would be unfair to label moral injury a

When we think about it, just a few years ago it was all around the place, yet it’s striking how little we talk about the pandemic today. It was a period of time that shaped every part of our lives. It impacted our routines, our physicality, our relationships, our very basic sense of safety, and yet it has slipped quietly out of public conversation. News cycles have moved to more catchy topics. Regular briefings have vanished. Even in our casual conversations we rarely touch i

If we listen what we keep being told, it would seem that rest sounds simple. Lie down. Slow down. Take a break. Step away. "Just be". But for many of us, rest can be anything but easy. It can bring feelings of discomfort, feel unfamiliar, bring feelings of guilt or even feel threatening. We often desperately crave rest, but we find ourselves unable to settle, trying to find things to do, to be productive, or, on the other hand, we scroll on our phones with feelings of guilt i

Burnout is a word we hear often, most frequently in work, but it can also relate to personal life. It’s not always understood in a way that reflects how deep the experience of burnout can be. However, we can often think of burnout as simply being “very tired” or “stressed for too long”. The reality is not only more complex, but also more human than that. Burnout is actually a state of profound depletion spanning multiple levels: emotional, physical, cognitive, and relational.

There’s a familiar image many of us carry about therapy, one that has become popular in media depictions of therapists. The client is lying on a couch, the therapist is sitting behind them, silent, expressionless, offering nothing but the occasional “mm‑hmm”. Or perhaps they are holding a writing pad, almost like a shield, jotting notes of what is happening in front of them. It’s the stereotype you may see in cartoons and some old photos of analysts — the counsellor as a blan

The term “trauma‑informed” is used a lot these days, both by therapists and in other areas. However, it isn’t always presented in a way that would feel accessible or simply human. For me, trauma‑informed practice was never about just a technique or an add‑on to my practice — being trauma-informed is the foundation of how I work with every single person who comes through the door. Working in a trauma-informed way doesn't necessarily mean that one needs to identify as “traumati

If have your first session booked, it's a sign that you’ve already done quite a lot. You decided to move forward with therapy, searched for a therapist, reached out, had your initial call and then made the decision to step into the room — none of that is small. It's already been some hard work! The first session is all about slowly starting to unpack what has been going on. It's about arriving, settling in, and beginning to make sense of what’s been going on for you. Here’s w

When thinking about starting counselling, the very first step — actually reaching out — can feel like a lot. Before starting with our regular, either face to face or online sessions, I will invite you to a short initial call - either via phone or online. While being confidential, it remains informal, there’s no pressure to commit at any point. It’s a chance for both of us to get a sense of each other and see whether working together feels right. Here’s how it looks like. A ge

Hello, and thanks for having a look at this first post. I’ve been thinking about creating a place like this one for a while. A place that is perhaps les formal than the rest of the website, one that may be a bit more reflective, or that may offer some additional guidance. A place where I would not only talk about therapy and what it looks like, but also about other things that come up so often for many of us: how burnout looks like, the heavy backpack of guilt and shame, the